2021 New Year's Sex Resolutions

Okay, so there's no way you make a post about New Year's without first acknowledging how absolutely WILD 2020 was. We did not have a good time, 2020, in the future, moving forward, we'd rather NOT have a repeat of the year from hell. 

Now that that's behind us, let's move on to 2021. Sure, it's wisest to not get to hopeful at what the year may bring while we begin to take a few more steps out of our homes and nothing yet is 100% normal, but we thought we might have some fun. So here it is: 2021 New Year's Sex Resolutions. Because we all deserve something good right about now. 

This year, consider adding more pleasure to your list of New Year's resolutions. 

This isn't to say yoga, meditation, learning a new skill or picking up a hobby aren't valuable additions - we're just saying sexual pleasure is often neglected when sitting down with pen and paper and contemplating the new year. 

Here's an index of resolutions you might consider adopting when we ring in 2021.

Masturbate

Touching yourself is cool -- whether you're in a relationship, being sexually active with others or have been practicing solo for awhile now. 

Masturbation is great for relaxation, releasing sexual tension and of course, coming to a better understanding your body. How are you supposed to tell partners what you enjoy if you have yet to find out for yourself?

Being able to communicate only increases the likelihood that everyone will have a good time. You find satisfaction and your partner finds satisfaction in helping you get there. 

Did you know masturbation improves self esteem and body image too? 

Even when climax is not reached, your body is flooded with endorphins, dopamine and oxytocin. 

In turn, you feel better about your body, because your body is making itself feel good. 

Have Sex Once a Week 

According to multiple studies, the happiest couples have sex once a week. 

Of course, this doesn't need to be the limit, but as many of us are balancing a career, children and a relationship, its not unheard of for a week to pass without being intimate with our partners.

The solution isn't to hope the time will find you. 

By resolving to have sex with your partner once a week, you'll show one another how valued the other is -- and how attracted to each other you are. 

And of course, getting into it makes it even more likely that you'll keep it up. 

According to the Telegraph, "People who had higher incomes but less sex were more unhappy than those with low incomes but who enjoyed sex more frequently." 

With that is mind, sex isn't just for your enjoyment, its for your wellbeing too. 

Introduce a Toy

First, check out our guide to vibrators, its a good place to start if you have hesitation in trying out a toy with a partner. 

Introducing a sex toy doesn't make for better sexual experiences, just different ones. However, there is opportunity to lengthen foreplay and increase build up.   

Talk to your partner, and if the two of you are interested in exploring sexually together...well you're in the right place. Navigate to the homepage and check out the couples tab. 

Sit down together and browse through massagers, lube or bedroom play gear. This can be a great opportunity to learn more about one another and plan for fun times to come. 

Never Fake an Orgasm

Once you get it in the habit...its hard to stop. And why teach your partner the incorrect ways to touch you? 

We all know this is a no-no. And yet a good amount of us still do it. 

While sex is still good without orgasm, its certainly better with one. Sex is a group project, where both (or all) parties involved should do equal work and receive the good grade in the end. 

We realize this can be easier said than done. For some people, reaching the peak is no easy task. 

But once again, we'd like to remind you that you're worthy of an orgasm, and there are many routes you can take. Using a sex toy to play with your partner - perhaps a vibrator - is a great place to start. 

Have Sex Only When You Want to, With Who You Want to

It seems obvious enough. It may seem as if it doesn’t even need to be said. But you’d be surprised by the number of people I hear from that have had sex with a person because this person bought dinner and they felt obligated, or they felt pressured for whatever reason, or they thought it would make the person happy. 

Those of us single during the pandemic may have found ourselves getting out the vibrator more often, putting our dicks in some weird stuff and ordering more sex toys online. When you haven’t been regularly having sex with strangers, its easy to reflect on the times in which you were — and then realizing that if given the chance, for whatever reason, you would not have a repeat with that one man or woman. 

This streak of involuntary abstinence many of us have taken during the pandemic has hopefully prompted us to think about how we always cum when we’re alone. That we always touch ourselves the way we want to be touched and we would never put up with something that didn’t feel goof when we are on our own. 

In 2021, we are only having sex with those who are deserving, those who we are attracted to and those we want to have sex with. 

Sex positivity also means having sex on our own terms. 

Teach Your Partner How to Touch You, Learn to Touch Your Partner

Surely we all enjoy the touch of our partners, the feel of their skin against our own. 

However, there's always room to do better by your partners' body- and making suggestions isn't to talk down or belittle them. 

Especially when we relax, be present and guide hands and lips to the parts of ourselves that awaken pleasure within us. 

Put kindness above all and demonstrate to your partner how you're pleased (and surely they'll be able to tell!).

Check out a video from our channel to learn more about the benefits of masturbating: