Booties & Butt Plugs
Butt plugs don't have to be a "warm-up" for anal sex, can feel good even if you don't have a prostate and are a fun toy to have in your arsenal, your sex toy toy box, tool belt -- you choose the metaphor.
By the end of this article, you might be choosing a butt plug too.
Here are some of my thoughts on butt plugs, as someone without a prostate, who isn't in love with anal sex and who owns a butt plug (and is looking to expand her collection).
Butt plugs for the sake of butt plugs
While often used to prep for anal sex, its not the only reason you might try out a butt plug. Anal plugs have the ability to make a person feel more "full" and can narrow the vaginal canal, resulting in increased pleasure for both partners.
Butt plugs don't have to be for just partnered sex, either.
Masturbating with a butt plug in adds a little extra *something* and can intensify orgasms. There's something about it that feels a little self-care-esque as well, making the experience more than just rubbing one out.
Plus, a booty with a plug in it's a special kind of cute.
What you need to know.
Start small. Butt plugs come in varying shapes and sizes. There's no reason to make yourself uncomfortable, that defeats the point.
Check out our anal toy & stimulators and you'll see there's no shortage in variety.
As with many sexual endeavors use lube. Honestly, its not really optional when it comes to butt stuff. A water-based lube is your best bet. My favorite is Adam & Eve Forbidden Anal Lube.
Water-based lube is safe for sex toys, can be used with condoms and doesn't stain your sheets or clothes. When it starts to dry, a little water, a little spit or small drop of lube to get things wet again.
It shouldn't hurt. Don't "put up" with pain. It shouldn't hurt. Relaxing is important, and so is playing with your booty a little before insertion. Start with a small plug, this can help alleviate discomfort.
Always clean up when you're done. While nothing should be too messy, washing the butt plug off with soap and water is a good practice. If you'll be adding a plug to a collection of sex toys, it doesn't hurt to get a toy cleaner.
Using a butt plug doesn't have to lead to anal sex. You've heard it before -- communicate! If you don't want this to lead to anal sex, tell your partner. If you do, tell your partner. If you are unsure where this endeavor will take you, tell your partner.
Choosing a Plug
Silicone, stainless steel and borosilicate glass are ideal materials -- easy to clean and nonporous so that they can't hold onto bacteria.
I've read silicone is a good starting point, as its flexible and more forgiving to maneuver. However, I started with an aluminum plug.
While this plug has obvious appeal for its cuteness, I have found that the design of this plug can lead to a certain...rubbing...on a partner's penis in certain positions.
If the flexibility of silicone interests you, I like the looks of this one. But I can be won over by cute, fun design. There's plenty of sleek, simple options as well.
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