The Beginner's Guide to Bondage and BDSM

The Beginner's Guide to Bondage and BDSM

Any hardcore kinkster will tell you that BDSM is a great way to make sex a little more exciting -- but it can also be a little intimidating if you don’t know what you’re doing.

Mainstream media is slowly catching up thanks to the hit Netflix series “Bonding” and the ever-popular (albeit slightly cringe-worthy) 50 Shades of Grey series. And while these are enjoyable to watch, they most certainly do not serve as a guidebook to the art of dark pleasure. So where do you start if you’re a beginner with no experience in the lifestyle?

Here are a few tips to help you dive into the world of bondage and BDSM – sans the cheesy Hollywood lines and cliché fuzzy handcuffs.

Choose a partner. Kink is a great way to spice things up in the bedroom when you’re in a committed relationship, but you can still partake in the fun if you’re single as long as you have a partner you can trust. Try a kink dating site if you’re looking for an experienced partner to “show you the ropes,” or choose a friend-with-benefits so you can enjoy learning together. Either way, just make sure you’re with someone who will respect your boundaries at all times.

Set your boundaries. Consent is a huge part of bondage and BDSM, so set your boundaries and discuss them ahead of time with your partner so everyone is on the same page. Don’t forget to choose a "safe word" while you’re at it so you know you can pump the breaks at any time if you start to feel uncomfortable.

Keep an open mind. Mainstream media likes to paint BDSM as nothing more than spanking and handcuffs, but the world of bondage is way bigger than that. Go in with an open mind and don’t limit yourself to what you’ve seen on TV. Trust me, most people would take the feeling of cool steel handcuffs around their wrists over pink fuzzy novelty store cuffs any day of the week!

Choose the right equipment. If you don’t have a stockpile of kinky items on hand, start your collection with a few essentials to get you started. A silk scarf, for example, is a sexy yet versatile item that can be used as a blindfold, or as a non-painful way to tie your partner’s hands behind their back.

Sex and Mischief Heart Paddle

Silk Scarf Restraints

If you’re into the idea of spanking but aren’t quite ready for something advanced like a bullwhip, try a leather paddle that delivers impact without too much force.

Sex and Mischief Heart Paddle

If you’re not sure what you’re into, invest in a small bondage kit that has everything a beginner needs to explore what BDSM has to offer.

Tame Me 8-Piece Beginner Bondage Set

Have fun. BDSM is a great way to escape reality, so have fun with it! Explore different roles, try new things, and get dressed up to really being the fantasy to life. Remember, you’re here to explore your capacity for pain and pleasure, so don’t be afraid to let go and enjoy yourself!

2-Piece Sexy Strap Garter Dress

 

 

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