In one of our previous articles, we shared a couple of tips on having the best girl-on-girl sex. Now, let's go to the guys. 

No one really talks about how good male to male sex is. Some straight people even think that gay sex only happens from behind. But if you already had gay sex, watched gay sex, or are just familiar with gay sex, you would know that there’s a plethora of positions and techniques to try to maximize pleasure in the bedroom.

In today’s article, we will be sharing those techniques to help you have a safer and satisfying gay sex life.

Check in with yourself.

If it’s your first time with a man, you may be wondering, “where do I start?”

Better ask yourself first if you are really ready to have sex with him. Just because most gay couples are doing it doesn’t mean you also need to do it. Never pressure yourself. But if you feel like now is finally the right time to explore with your guy, then great. You can go ahead to our next tip.

Don’t skip the foreplay.

We know how excited you are to bang each other, but there’s no need to rush. Take the time to heighten the mood and explore your partner’s body. If you're topping your guy, you can start by whispering something erotic in his ear before you caress his earlobe with your tongue. Did you know that ears are one of the male’s erogenous zones? They can be as sensitive as the penis.

Once you’ve set the mood, go down to his nipples. Lick from left to right, then play with his balls or inner thighs to get him hard and horny. Oral is also proven to give your man the pleasure he’s been craving. Lay him down and lick, kiss, and suck his cock as you take your mouth down to his perineum then to his butthole. Open his ass cheeks and shove your tongue deep inside. That ass eating alone will drive him crazy. For the bottom, you can give your man some pleasurable moans while you push your ass closer to his face. 

Try different gay sex positions.

Male to male sex is more than just fucking from behind. Not all gay couples even enjoy doggy-style. Here are a few gay sex positions we think you will love:

• Missionary Gay Sex Position. Yep, male couples can have sex facing each other. Missionary allows for better communication and connection. Nothing is more intimate than good eye contact, right? In this position, one man lies on his back, then his partner positions himself on top and inserts his penis into his butthole. 

• Legs In The Air Gay Sex Position. The guy on top of a missionary position can try to hold his partner’s legs back or put them over his shoulders for deeper anal penetration. 

• Lotus Gay Sex Position. This position needs one guy to sit in a butterfly yoga pose. The partner will then sit in his lap, facing him and wrapping his legs around his back. The man at the top must sit closer so his bottom partner can penetrate his anus. 

Use sex toys.

There’s a myriad of sex toys designed for gay couples. You and your man can play with prostate massagers, anal plugs, cock rings, nipple stimulators, erotic kits, and some BDSM gear. 

Prostate massagers are a great way to pleasure the P-spot, also known as the male's G-spot. The 'P' stands for the prostate gland. It's a walnut-sized organ located just below your bladder and above your penis. When this thing is stimulated, it can cause you extreme and full-body orgasms. We highly recommend the Adams Rechargeable Prostate Probe toy. It is 8 inches long, has a vibrating bulb-shaped tip, and features ten powerful vibrating speeds and functions.

If you want to train your butthole and get used to the feeling of getting fucked, anal plugs are for you. Our pick is the Model M Curved Rimming Plug With Remote Control. You will love its powerful vibration and spiraling stimulation. 

Dildos are also an excellent addition to your sex routine. But stay away from those "super realistic" dildos. Most of them are not designed for male anal penetration and might only leave you or your partner in pain.

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Say no to penetration if you don’t feel like it.

Whatever your reason is, if you're not comfortable with anal penetration, don't do it. After all, penetration isn't everything. You and your man can still have a fantastic sexy time by engaging in extended foreplay, mutual masturbation, blowjobs, rimming, and other oral plays. These acts even offer more spontaneity. 

Gay sex is different from straight or vaginal sex, wherein you can get dirty wherever you want. Male to male sex needs a lot of preparation, so spontaneity can be quite hard to achieve. You have to consider a couple of things beforehand, like, did you bring lube? Are you clean? What did you eat last night? Because hey, shit can happen. Meanwhile, without penetration, you can pleasure each other anywhere you like without having to worry about getting messy.

Explore each other’s fetishes.

Just like straight couples, gay couples also have their fetish. What is a fetish? Our previous article explained that it is a sexual excitement or an extreme interest in an object or body part that's not usually considered sexual, such as feet or hair.

Fetishism is more of a guy thing, which explains why there are tons of fetishes for gay men. Here are some of the most popular:

• Rubber
• Leather
• Used underwear
• Beard / Facial Hair
• Urine
• Spit
• Armpits
• Feet
• Duct tape / Rope
• Men in uniform 
• Enemas
• Skinheads
• Balloons

Be open with your man about your fetish so you can explore it together and incorporate it into your sex routine. If you’re not into fetish, be honest and tell it to your partner as well, but still take the time to listen to his secret fantasies. Doing so will make your relationship stronger. 

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Play it safe.

When it comes to guy-on-guy sex, hygiene and safety are critical. And it’s not only because you have to bring the best version of yourself to the bedroom but also because you need to minimize your risk of STDs. Yes, those who engage in anal sex can still catch sexually transmitted infections, especially if they’re unprotected and having intercourse with a non-monogamous partner. 

Bareback sex (anal penetration without condoms) provides a more intense experience, but it is still advisable to have protection. It's also best to have a regular cleaning routine. If you’re the bottom guy, clean frequently with a douching bulb, an enema, or other cleaning devices and perform a pre-sex check to guarantee mess-free sex. Here are some more tips for a safer anal play:

• Monitor your food intake. Fiber helps cleanse the colon, so it’s better to eat a high fiber diet so you won’t have to hardly clean yourself before sex. 
• Take your time cleaning your butthole. 
• Get yourself and your partner tested regularly.
• Stay in a monogamous relationship. However, if group sex is your kink, just be sure to always use protection. Change condoms between partners to avoid transferring bacteria.

There are no rules in male to male sex. As long as both partners are happy and healthy, that's all that matters. Just don’t forget this vital piece of advice: COMMUNICATE.

Whether a beginner or an expert, consent and communication are always the keys to amazing gay sex. You and your man need to let each other know what feels good and what doesn't so you can both have a great time. Also, keep it fair. Did you cum, and he didn't yet? Don't be selfish; help him get there, too! A good guy-on-guy relationship is all about give and take. 

What about you? What's your tip to happier and safer gay sex?