Gentlemen, Here’s How To Turn On Your Woman

What makes a woman horny?

Admit it or not, most women are really hard to read—especially when it comes to sexual arousal. Every girl gets turned on in her own unique way. Some instantly feel lust just after a few dirty talks, while others may need a certain amount of time to be “in the mood”. There are also ladies who don’t even seem to know what makes them excited.  

According to WebMD, “women's sexual turn-ons are more complicated than men's.”

Guys can get horny as quickly as a push of a button. But for most women, sex isn't that straightforward. They can't just snap their fingers and be ready for sex. Girls have to connect with their partners and feel comfortable first before getting into sexy mode.

So men, if you want your woman to crave sex with you, you have to exert a little more effort. Don’t worry - we’ve got your back on this. Check out our amazing tips on how to turn on your woman and have her begging you for sex. 

Here are some quick tips:

1. Give her genuine compliments.
2. Step up your dirty talking game.
3. Send her flirty and naughty texts.
4. Make her feel sexy.
5. Give her erotic foot/body massages.
6. Don't forget about eye contact.
7. Foreplay enough.
8. Moan and groan.
9. Go down on her.
10. Be dominant and take the lead.

And here are some detailed tips:

TIP: ASK HER WHAT SHE LIKES

Show your woman you’re willing to please her by asking her what exactly turns her on. Does she like to be tied up? Or does she like to tie you up?

As they say, you'll never know until you ask. 

Sometimes, asking a girl what she wants you to do to her is already enough to put her in the mood. But again, every woman is unique. Some girls are too shy to open up, while others are comfortable sharing that information.

If your woman is the type who loves telling her sexual fantasies, kinky thoughts, and turn-ons and turn-offs, then you're a lucky guy because all you have to do is listen and do your homework. 

There are two ways on how you can ask your girl what she likes in bed. 

One: during the heat of the moment. Like dirty talking, yes.

Two: after the action.

Do the asking during your pillow talk. For us, that is more intimate and romantic. Ask your girl if she enjoyed the sex, what were the fun parts, and what she would want you to do next time. According to Calgary psychologist and sex therapist Perry Sirota:

"It's very important that you ask your partner if she's happy with the sex the two of you are having."

Here are some ideas of what to ask to get you started:

1. "What are your favorite sex positions?"
2. "What’s your favorite part about having quickies?"
3. "Do you like it when I rub your (body part) like this?"
4. “What part of the body do you want me to touch you first?”
5. “Is it okay if we use toys?”
6. "Have you ever tried anal? Would you want to try?"
7. "Do you like being spanked?"
8. "What makes you orgasm the fastest?"
   
9. "Do you like role play?"
10. "Do you like being choked during sex?"

If you're really serious about knowing what she wants, you can sit with her and draft a "dos and don'ts" list for the bedroom.

TIP: GET HER INTO THE MOOD

“I’m not in the mood tonight.”

Do you often hear this from your partner?

There are times when it’s difficult for a woman to get into the moment. Don’t take it personally. She loves you; she just doesn’t feel like having sex. One reason behind that is because her mind is preoccupied with stress and worries. When a person is stressed, it’s hard to get aroused.  

Chicago sex and relationship therapist Laura Berman, PhD, says that women can do many things all at once, and that makes things hard sexually.

“Most women find themselves putting the kids to bed, cleaning up the kitchen and making lunch for the next day, and the last thing they feel like doing is having sex." 

So, how do you put your girl in a sultry mood? There are sexual ways and not so sexual ways. Let’s start with the latter:

1. Take some household chores off her plate so she can relax and have free time with you.
2. Cook dinner for her or set up a romantic dinner date at home (add wine or champagne!).
3. Light up her favorite scented candles to create a romantic atmosphere.
4. Clean the bedroom and make it ready for romance. Don’t forget to display her favorite flowers. 
5. Look good and smell good. Women find well-groomed men sexually attractive.

Now, for the sexual ways:

1. Spoon or cuddle.
2. Buy her sexy lingerie to wear and tell her how amazing she looks. 
3. Watch porn or an erotic movie together.
4. Give her relaxing foreplay. Massage her body, kiss her passionately, tease her through clothes. 
5. Be spontaneous, but also try scheduling sex so she can prepare and have something to look forward to.
6. Talk with her about your sexual fantasies.
7. Caress her erogenous zones. Girls get pleasure from touching. Here are the excitable areas of a woman’s body:

• Lips
• Neck
• Nape
• Ears
• Shoulders
• Temples
• Eyelids
• Belly
• Underbelly

TIP: EXPERIMENT, EXPERIMENT, EXPERIMENT

Same old sex routine. 

That is one of the reasons why most women lose sexual desire; there’s no variation anymore. For some couples in long-term relationships, sex can become boring, and when that happens, your girl might begin to lose interest in you and just look elsewhere to bring the playfulness and thrill back to her sex life.  

As ob-gyn Renee Horowitz, the founder of the Center for Sexual Wellness in Michigan, says:

“When you're in a long-term relationship, you get into a routine. There's biological evidence that novel experiences cause the release of dopamine in the brain."

Dopamine is often called a chemical messenger that plays a big role in how we feel pleasure.

"That's why it's so much easier to get excited in a new relationship -- everything is novel, and your brain responds accordingly."

The solution here, of course, is not to change partners but to change the way you do sex. We’ve got some tips right here:

1. Take sex out of the bedroom.

Sex doesn’t always have to be done in the bedroom. Spice things up by having sex at different places. Get naughty with your girl in the shower, in the living room, on the kitchen counter, in the backyard, on a roof deck, in the car. Or perhaps you want to try public sex? The idea of getting caught will surely make her hornier! 

2. Experiment with variation.

3. Introduce sex toys to the bedroom.

Pleasure toys break up routines and help add variety and extra spices to your sexy times. There are tons of pleasure toys on the market that will give your girl the most powerful orgasms of her life. Try clit stimulators and remote-controlled bullet vibrators if you want to make her scream and beg for more.

If these tips are still not enough to spice up your same old sex routine, you may also try these:

Indeed, all the tips we’ve shared above are guaranteed to arouse your woman and make her wet so bad. But do you want to know one more secret on how you can keep her sexually obsessed with you?

Be an amazing lover.

There's a reason why most girls are into romantic movies and books. They dream of having a "knight in shining armor" who will treat them like a queen and make them feel loved and appreciated. You have to be that knight. Make her feel special, listen to her thoughts, let her express herself, never see her as an object, and always treat her like she's the only girl in the world. 

Gentlemen, that is how you turn on a woman.